Boundaries Between Work and Life

Boundaries Between Work and Life

BoundariesBoundaries Have Been Set and Sanity Kept

Boundaries between work and life must be established, but how do you do that if you work in a stressful and time consuming job?

First, let’s discuss how to streamline your work life in order to reduce stress, save time and set boundaries.

Arrive Early

If you can do it, arrive at your workplace at least 15-20 minutes early. This allows you to set up your computer, look over your work for the day and begin, hopefully, before your supervisor arrives. Arriving early is a great stress reliever and it does show the employer that you care.

Organization/Streamlining

One way to reduce stress and at the same time become more efficient is to streamline  the way you work everyday. Here’s how you do just that:

Do you use a “To Do” list?

If not, you need to create a list of the tasks you need to perform everyday and then check each one off when you complete it.  The sense of accomplishment you’ll feel will be amazing when you look down the list to see just how much you completed in one day!

My preference is to use an Excel spreadsheet for the “To Do” list.  If you’re not familiar with Excel but do have access to this software, I would recommend that you play around with it and then look for a video how-to video on YouTube.  Why I like Excel for this task is simple: you can easily sort the dates to see what is due next.

Easy, right?

Lunch Breaks

Take them. Seriously. Once you begin working through your lunch hour, the employer will begin to expect you to continue.  If you’re already doing this, it’s time to reverse this unhealthy habit. It’s an important boundary to set for yourself.

Lunch breaks are necessary. Try meeting some friends for a quick lunch or simply get away by yourself and relax. You’ll return to work refreshed.

List of Accomplishments for the Week

Cut and paste the items on your “To Do” list that you have finished and place those items into this document.  Leave the document on your desk for your employer to see.

Leaving Work on Time

Try to leave at the normal quitting time, if possible. It’s important to put in a full, productive day at your current job, however, it’s also vitally important to protect your personal/family time.

It’s called balance.  And that’s a good thing.

Set those work/life boundaries and you’ll develop good habits that will benefit both your employer and your family.

Please post your comments below. I would love to hear from you.

About Leslie Williams

Leslie Sansone Williams is a #1 International Best Selling Author, paralegal educator, graphic designer, course creator and product developer. She writes and consults on the paralegal career, publishing, social media, video & marketing in general.

Leslie has 27+ years experience in the paralegal and marketing careers. She has worked in the following areas of law: condemnation litigation, probate, estate planning, personal injury (catastrophic and medical malpractice), administrative law, franchise law, professional regulation, zoning, automobile dealership franchise law and business litigation. Leslie is the author of “Legal Break-In: How to Get That Legal Secretary, Legal Assistant or Paralegal Jobs!” (Amazon) and the creator of the very informative and career changing “Paralegal Inner Circle Class”. Get on the Wait List today – link is above!

Paralegal Mentors Give Back

Paralegal Mentors Give Back

Paralegal Mentors provide great support

Over 22 years ago, I began my paralegal career. I had just closed my plant nursery and felt a bit lost. The nursery was a very hard business to run but when it was over, I missed it.

So, what to do?

I checked the local job ads and it seemed that the higher pays were in either the medical or legal fields.

One problem.

I had no experience in either field. None at all.

What I decided to do was call an employment agency 40 miles away (nearest large city). The agency consultant asked if I could come right down to take a typing test. I didn’t want to miss this opportunity, so I drove to the appointment (with 102 degree fever!) and took the test.

The following week, I called to follow up and was told that they had a job interview for me at a small law firm. Long story short, the interview went very well and I was hired on a temporary basis. Within a month’s time, this temporary job turned into a permanent one.

One of the main reasons everything went so well was because the paralegal there became my teacher/mentor. She answered my questions very patiently and enjoyed seeing me learn something new every single day.

Honestly, I have to tell you – all of this was tough. Starting a new job is not easy – so much to learn when you enter a new field. However, this paralegal made it much easier. And…she cared very deeply that I make it.

So, my question to you is this: how are you giving back to the profession that has given you so much?

Have you reached out to any paralegal students or recent graduates lately? No? Well, it’s time. Time to take someone under your wing to “pay it forward”. Time to teach that new paralegal how to work efficiently, accurately and with high integrity.

About Leslie Williams

Leslie Sansone Williams is a #1 International Best Selling Author, paralegal educator, graphic designer, course creator and product developer. She writes and consults on the paralegal career, publishing, social media, video & marketing in general.

Leslie has 27+ years experience in the paralegal and marketing careers. She has worked in the following areas of law: condemnation litigation, probate, estate planning, personal injury (catastrophic and medical malpractice), administrative law, franchise law, professional regulation, zoning, automobile dealership franchise law and business litigation. Leslie is the author of “Legal Break-In: How to Get That Legal Secretary, Legal Assistant or Paralegal Jobs!” (Amazon) and the creator of the very informative and career changing “Paralegal Inner Circle Class”. Get on the Wait List today – link is above!

Tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary

Tragedy at Sandy Hook Elementary.

How Do We Minister to the Surviving Parents?

I walked in the front door after spending a couple of hours with my beloved Grandson and my husband broke the news concerning the literal massacre of innocent children and staff at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut.

Right now, the parents are dealing with horrific news and a very gross reality. Their children are gone.

Let me tell you, their lives are forever changed. As President Obama said, “No weddings, no birthdays, no graduations”.  No new news.

Done.

We lost our wonderful daughter, Kate, at age 21 in a horrific car accident. There is no such thing as closure when you lose a child. That loss is felt until you meet again in Heaven. And, even though I know where Kate is and that we will see each other down the road, it’s very difficult.

I remember attending a friend’s wedding a couple of years after Kate’s death. The church ceremony was beautiful. However, about 15 minutes into it, I was overwhelmed with emotion because I would never see Kate walk down the aisle. I would never see the joy on Kate’s face telling me that she found that special forever man. And there will be no grandchildren with a mother named “Kate”.

This is grief. And it hits when you least expect it. It doesn’t appear when it’s convenient as some of your family or friends might wish.  When your child’s birthday rolls around, very few people acknowledge it. When Christmas arrives, the child you would have wrapped presents for is just not there.

What the parents and grandparents will experience now is, of course, loss but they will feel emotionally overwhelmed. They will try to do something as simple as going to a restaurant and it will feel surreal. They will feel guilty enjoying the simple pleasures of life because their child is dead.

So, what can you do when a friend or family member has lost a child?

1.  Pay attention to them. Ask if you can stop by for an hour. Refuse to play the avoidance game.

2.  Hug them and tell them you’re available day or night. And mean it.

3.  Continue to talk with them about their child, if they’re ok with that. Ask them if it’s ok.

4.  Remember their child. Remember their child on their child’s birthday, during holidays and on the day they passed to be with the Lord.

5.  If you live within driving distance, don’t phone it in.

6.  Don’t say, “Are you over it yet?”  or “It’s been several months, time to move on.”

7.  Think of creative ways to remember your friend or family member’s child. How about sending balloons off on their birthday every year? Perhaps they would appreciate it if you gave a gift to Toys For Tots in remembrance of their child.

With just a little caring and love, you can make a difference in the lives of these parents.

Today’s the day.

Just do it.

 

 

About Leslie Williams

Leslie Sansone Williams is a #1 International Best Selling Author, paralegal educator, graphic designer, course creator and product developer. She writes and consults on the paralegal career, publishing, social media, video & marketing in general.

Leslie has 27+ years experience in the paralegal and marketing careers. She has worked in the following areas of law: condemnation litigation, probate, estate planning, personal injury (catastrophic and medical malpractice), administrative law, franchise law, professional regulation, zoning, automobile dealership franchise law and business litigation. Leslie is the author of “Legal Break-In: How to Get That Legal Secretary, Legal Assistant or Paralegal Jobs!” (Amazon) and the creator of the very informative and career changing “Paralegal Inner Circle Class”. Get on the Wait List today – link is above!

Email Hacked Today!

Email Hacked Today!

Email hacked? You change your passwords often.

I got hacked today!

“Email hacked today! What a day this has been.”

This is what happened to a good friend of mine today.  She had taken her boys to stay with her Mom for the day and upon arrival at work, had a call from Mom telling her to check her e-mail.

A parent from the baseball team had called her Mom and was very worried about her. He wanted to know what he needed to do.

Why would he ask that?

Well, he had received an email that said my friend was in London and that she had misplaced her wallet and he needed to send her a certain amount of money asap!

My friend’s Mom explained to the parent that her daughter was fine and was not in London. He was so relieved.  Calls came in from New York, Texas, Florida, Colorado, New Jersey and locally to check on her.

It was so upsetting to have her email hacked and her privacy invaded like this. You think you have all of the necessary security in place and then something like this happens.

On the good side, what my friend discovered, however, is that in spite of all of this, she was able to touch base with people she hadn’t spoken to in quite some time who were genuinely concerned for her.

She discovered that her friends read this fake email and just knew it didn’t sound like her at all and became suspicious.

So, tip #1 – double check your passwords to be sure they’re strong:

  • If your password has an “a” in it, change it to the “@” symbol instead
  • Change your passwords regularly (once per month)
  • Are you using obvious pass words such as “firstname123” or “your last name 123”? (Change it!)
  • Do not share your passwords with family or friends (yes, people do this!)
  • Do not save your passwords in a file on your computer. Write them down on paper and store in a safe, private place.

Long story short, my friend is a little unnerved but doing well in her hometown (not London!) Lesson learned.

Take care,

Leslie

About Leslie Williams

Leslie Sansone Williams is a #1 International Best Selling Author, paralegal educator, graphic designer, course creator and product developer. She writes and consults on the paralegal career, publishing, social media, video & marketing in general.

Leslie has 27+ years experience in the paralegal and marketing careers. She has worked in the following areas of law: condemnation litigation, probate, estate planning, personal injury (catastrophic and medical malpractice), administrative law, franchise law, professional regulation, zoning, automobile dealership franchise law and business litigation. Leslie is the author of “Legal Break-In: How to Get That Legal Secretary, Legal Assistant or Paralegal Jobs!” (Amazon) and the creator of the very informative and career changing “Paralegal Inner Circle Class”. Get on the Wait List today – link is above!

Gluten-Free Lifestyle is Possible While Eating Italian Food

Gluten-Free Lifestyle is Possible While Eating Italian Food

Gluten-free lifestyle is very possible even while eating Italian food!

My gluten-free lifestyle made it almost impossible to include Italian food. I’ve even brought my own gluten-free pasta to a local restaurant and asked for a cup of spaghetti sauce so that I could enjoy Italian food with my family.

I know, I know – a bit over the top, but I missed the atmosphere of my local Italian restaurant.

Now, for a little history:

My Italian grandparents operated a deli/grocery store/fruit market in Paterson, NJ for several decades. My great-grandfather, Andrea, started this business in 1905 (approx.) and then my uncle sold the building in 2005, so our family business was around for 100 years! Love that.

My Mom worked in the store from 1955 until 1967, so all of my days off from school were spent here (see photo of the store above).

Needless to say, pasta was eaten at least once a week!

For most of my life, I suffered from stomach aches and fatigue. In 2001, after trying the Atkins Diet, all of my intestinal pain disappeared! You’d think I would’ve put two and two together at that point but I was in denial that wheat/gluten could actually be the cause of my pain and that I needed to maintain a gluten-free diet.

So, after not eating wheat for 2 months or so, I felt great and decided to indulge in a wonderful meal of bread and pizza. Big mistake. My hubby had to take me to the ER several hours later.

That’s the day I woke up to the fact that I had to change my diet to one that was totally gluten-free. No more wheat. No regular bread. No pasta or pizza. Oy!

Let me tell you, my doctors were very skeptical that wheat was the cause. They didn’t have an alternative answer, but they were adamant that wheat was not harming me.  The fact remains, though, that abstinence from not only wheat but also corn and soy totally gave me my life back.

But the problem was this: I loved Italian food.  And it seemed I wouldn’t be able to eat much at my favorite restaurants until recently.

I picked up a recent copy of the “Gluten-Free Living” magazine the other day and was pleased to see:

1. Ads for restaurants who are sensitive to those of us who are gluten intolerant.

2.  Interview with the wonderful chef, Tsai Ming, who explained why and how he works hard to provide alternatives to restaurant customers who have various food sensitivities.

3.  Another interview with a well known television actress, Jennifer Esposito, who was diagnosed with celiac disease in 2009. Jennifer explains how going gluten free impacted her health and her career.

So, you see, when I see restaurant owners like Chef Peter Ingrasselino (Weehawken, NJ) or the owners of Alfredo’s`in Port Orange, FL add gluten-free entrees and pizza to their menu, it literally brings tears to my eyes and gives me many choices within this gluten-free lifestyle.

It’s wonderful, after 11 years, to finally have the opportunity to visit an Italian restaurant with my family to enjoy pasta or pizza.

Many thanks to all of the restaurant owners who have become more aware of food allergies and how to serve all of their customers’ gluten-free lifestyle. Let’s continue to support  and encourage their efforts.

About Leslie Williams

Leslie Sansone Williams is a #1 International Best Selling Author, paralegal educator, graphic designer, course creator and product developer. She writes and consults on the paralegal career, publishing, social media, video & marketing in general.

Leslie has 27+ years experience in the paralegal and marketing careers. She has worked in the following areas of law: condemnation litigation, probate, estate planning, personal injury (catastrophic and medical malpractice), administrative law, franchise law, professional regulation, zoning, automobile dealership franchise law and business litigation. Leslie is the author of “Legal Break-In: How to Get That Legal Secretary, Legal Assistant or Paralegal Jobs!” (Amazon) and the creator of the very informative and career changing “Paralegal Inner Circle Class”. Get on the Wait List today – link is above!

Facebook Reconnects You With Family and Friends

Facebook Reconnects You With Family and Friends

Facebook Helps Us Reconnect With Family, Friends and Develop Business Partnerships

Weren’t you in my Senior Psych class at Clifton High?

 

Facebook membership has allowed me to reconnect with family and friends I haven’t seen or spoke to in years.

Here’s how it happened:

A few years ago, someone asked to connect with me on LinkedIn. When I placed her name in Google, it was clear that this lady was busy with Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn! She was an independent paralegal.  By simply placing her name in Google, I was able to see what she was doing to promote her business.

Facebook was one of the tools she used to not only build her business but also to keep in touch with family and friends.

Honestly, I hadn’t heard of Facebook. So, I joined up and after a search or two, quickly found several former high school classmates.  Then, I reconnected with a wonderful childhood friend who went to elementary school with me in Paterson, NJ.

I began my own paralegal page on Facebook called “Paralegal Coffee Talk” and have met some wonderful people there. FYI: Feel free to stop by.

Long story short, after viewing the gorilla photos below, I began to think about how great it has been to reconnect with family, friends (LOL!) and also make new connections with people who have the same faith or interests that I do.

Has Facebook taken the place of meeting my family and friends in person?

In reality, our communication has increased.  Just recently, I teamed up with other web designers to form a team and all connections were made on Facebook. Powerful, right?

Have you had the same result?

After you take a look at the link below, let me know how social media has impacted your life (whether it be Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn or Google+). It’s made a huge, positive impact on my life!

Gorilla brothers reunite after 3 years!

About Leslie Williams

Leslie Sansone Williams is a #1 International Best Selling Author, paralegal educator, graphic designer, course creator and product developer. She writes and consults on the paralegal career, publishing, social media, video & marketing in general.

Leslie has 27+ years experience in the paralegal and marketing careers. She has worked in the following areas of law: condemnation litigation, probate, estate planning, personal injury (catastrophic and medical malpractice), administrative law, franchise law, professional regulation, zoning, automobile dealership franchise law and business litigation. Leslie is the author of “Legal Break-In: How to Get That Legal Secretary, Legal Assistant or Paralegal Jobs!” (Amazon) and the creator of the very informative and career changing “Paralegal Inner Circle Class”. Get on the Wait List today – link is above!

3 Reasons Why You Should Own Your Website

3 Reasons Why You Should Own Your Website

I know, I know…it’s just easier to set up your website on one of those “free” sites, right?

3 Reasons You Should Own Your Own Website
Own or Go Home

I mean, you simply set up an account with an e-mail address, password, set up your profile and you have yourself a website!

Or, maybe you’ve signed up with a company where you’ll pay a monthly fee and as a “freebie”, they’ll throw in a domain name.

Very cool.

Maybe….not so cool….

Why not?

Let’s say that you’re beginning to have some success with your business which is currently based on a free social media site or a free website.  All of a sudden the owner of the “free” site decides they would like to charge you a monthly fee.

What do you own at that point?

Do you own a domain name?

Do you own your site?

Nope. Nothing. Nada.

I’m all for establishing yourself on 3 or 4 social media sites, however, if you’re interested in building a rock solid business, it’s important to have a website where you own your domain name and you’re connected to a great hosting company.

  • Security
  • Stability
  • Branding

Oh, and let’s not forget….peace of mind.

 

 

About Leslie Williams

Leslie Sansone Williams is a #1 International Best Selling Author, paralegal educator, graphic designer, course creator and product developer. She writes and consults on the paralegal career, publishing, social media, video & marketing in general.

Leslie has 27+ years experience in the paralegal and marketing careers. She has worked in the following areas of law: condemnation litigation, probate, estate planning, personal injury (catastrophic and medical malpractice), administrative law, franchise law, professional regulation, zoning, automobile dealership franchise law and business litigation. Leslie is the author of “Legal Break-In: How to Get That Legal Secretary, Legal Assistant or Paralegal Jobs!” (Amazon) and the creator of the very informative and career changing “Paralegal Inner Circle Class”. Get on the Wait List today – link is above!

A Simple Formula

A Simple Formula

You’d like to set up a WordPress site,  get a domain name and figure out which hosting company to use, right?

Build a WordPress Site Quickly and Fearlessly
You deserve a pat on the back for installing WordPress!

So, what’s holding you back?

Is it “lack of knowledge”?

Or….just plain FEAR!!!

Well, honestly, I know what that feels like.  What I would advise you to do is work the building process one step at a time.

Now, remember, each time you learn something new, you become an “expert” in that facet of your process.  Pat yourself on the back after you’ve accomplished each and every task.

Ok, so here we go:

Do you want to build your own website?  Here are the steps:

1.  Go over to NameCheap (my favorite company) or a domain company of your choosing and purchase your domain name.

2.  Next, travel over to HostGator (another fav company) or a hosting company you’ve already chosen.

3.  Once you have completed both of these steps, ask your hosting company for the name of your servers so that you can fill in that information over at NameCheap (or your domain company).

4.  Now, login to your cpanel with your hosting company and scroll down until you see “Fantastico Deluxe”.  Click it!

5.  Then, look for “WordPress” on the left and click that link.

6.  Now, follow the directions to install your first WordPress blog and voila!

You’ve set up your first website!

Now, explore around inside your WordPress dashboard to get a feel for what every single link does.

Remember, pat yourself on the back for every single new task learned.

You rock!

Drop me a note below in the “Comments” section.  Let me know what you think or if you have any questions.  I’ll help you  in any way I can!

 

About Leslie Williams

Leslie Sansone Williams is a #1 International Best Selling Author, paralegal educator, graphic designer, course creator and product developer. She writes and consults on the paralegal career, publishing, social media, video & marketing in general.

Leslie has 27+ years experience in the paralegal and marketing careers. She has worked in the following areas of law: condemnation litigation, probate, estate planning, personal injury (catastrophic and medical malpractice), administrative law, franchise law, professional regulation, zoning, automobile dealership franchise law and business litigation. Leslie is the author of “Legal Break-In: How to Get That Legal Secretary, Legal Assistant or Paralegal Jobs!” (Amazon) and the creator of the very informative and career changing “Paralegal Inner Circle Class”. Get on the Wait List today – link is above!

3 Essential Oils to Combat Mosquito Bites

3 Essential Oils to Combat Mosquito Biteslavender (1)

We're getting ready here in my neck of the woods for mosquito season and it promises to be pretty rough.  What brought this to mind was an allergy reaction I had this week.

I broke out in hives and honestly, I have no idea why.  So, while I haven't figured out what caused this breakout, I knew immediately which oils to use to eliminate the itch.

So, here's what I did.

One day I used lavender, the next day melrose and then on the third day I used peppermint.  I have to say that all 3 essential oils eliminated the itching immediately.  The effect lasted for several hours so I applied the oils in the morning and again before bedtime.  The hives are slowly going away – woo hoo!!!

When mosquito season finally rolls around, I'll be prepared with a good supply of the above.

Oh – one more thing – you can "layer" the above oils as well.  Simply apply all three!

Disclaimer: Statements provided by Leslie Sansone Williams are for informational purposes only. These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease. Please consult your physician (or veterinarian) before using essential oils.

 

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About Leslie Williams

Leslie Sansone Williams is a #1 International Best Selling Author, paralegal educator, graphic designer, course creator and product developer. She writes and consults on the paralegal career, publishing, social media, video & marketing in general.

Leslie has 27+ years experience in the paralegal and marketing careers. She has worked in the following areas of law: condemnation litigation, probate, estate planning, personal injury (catastrophic and medical malpractice), administrative law, franchise law, professional regulation, zoning, automobile dealership franchise law and business litigation. Leslie is the author of “Legal Break-In: How to Get That Legal Secretary, Legal Assistant or Paralegal Jobs!” (Amazon) and the creator of the very informative and career changing “Paralegal Inner Circle Class”. Get on the Wait List today – link is above!

5 Reasons to Study Your Competition

5 Reasons to Study Your CompetitionTrash Bin

Trashing your competition is very similar to using bad language. You turn people off and it appears that you’re taking the low road

with your speech.

Keep your words clean, study your competition and know your stuff.  Customers and clients will love you for it.

Ok, so here are the 5 reasons to study your competition instead of trashing them:

1.  Confidence in your own products or services speak very clearly to your clients and it builds trust.

2.  Clients come away with a bad taste in their mouths if you speak negatively about anyone.  They perceive you as one who takes the “low road”.

3.  It’s wrong.  Period.

4.  You appear weak to your clients.

5.  Instead of trash talk, spend your time wisely by asking your client questions to figure out what they like or don’t like.  You must stay on track with your clients and continue to show them that you love to serve.  Gossip reduces the level of trust a client has with you.

So, trash the “trash talk” and take the high road!

About Leslie Williams

Leslie Sansone Williams is a #1 International Best Selling Author, paralegal educator, graphic designer, course creator and product developer. She writes and consults on the paralegal career, publishing, social media, video & marketing in general.

Leslie has 27+ years experience in the paralegal and marketing careers. She has worked in the following areas of law: condemnation litigation, probate, estate planning, personal injury (catastrophic and medical malpractice), administrative law, franchise law, professional regulation, zoning, automobile dealership franchise law and business litigation. Leslie is the author of “Legal Break-In: How to Get That Legal Secretary, Legal Assistant or Paralegal Jobs!” (Amazon) and the creator of the very informative and career changing “Paralegal Inner Circle Class”. Get on the Wait List today – link is above!