Category Archives: Christian Counseling

What If It Does Work Out?

What if it does work out?

1. Fear changes to Hope!

2. Working toward your end game with passion = Light, not darkness.

3. Fear and doubt drift away.

4. Consider the possibility of reaching the dream God’s placed in your mind and on your heart.

Make a sincere effort to quit the negative self-talk. Your past does not have to follow you into the future, you know.  Changing how you respond to criticism is important.

Become confident that you can trust the Lord and all that He has for you.  Read His Word regularly in order to infuse your mind with the truth.

Don’t give up – ever.

Remember…you are fearfully and wonderfully made.

He said so.

Never Give Up -Time to Dream Big

Never Give Up  – Time to Dream Big

Dream Believe Achieve
Take Time for Yourself. Dream Big.

The starter home my husband and I purchased many moons ago in the midwest needed a lot of upgrades. The carpet in the living room was threadbare, the kitchen was very small and you could only enter through the utility or living rooms. A garage was turned into a type of recreation room, however, the wall between the kitchen and rec room remained.

Well, not for long!

My hubby looked at me one day and said, “Would you be ok if I knocked that wall down?” I said, “Sure, it’ll help with the flow from room to room.” And voila! We placed a sheet over the doorway to the living room and he knocked down that wall.

Lo and behold…all of the electricals for the house ran through a large pipe and that presented a real challenge, indeed. Now, the wires would have to be rerouted, a breaker box installed, new ceiling, flooring, etc.  Whew! All with very little money.

When I relayed this information to my Mom over the phone one day, she made a comment that stopped me in my tracks. She said, “You’ll never finish that project.” I said, “Oh, just watch. I’ll never give up.”

It was a defining moment for me, really.

I knew in time we would finish all of it…we would get there. And we did. When we had the money, we installed a floor – just the two of us. For the first time in my life, I held a paint roller and painted the kitchen while my hubby was away on a business trip. My husband called his grandfather in New Jersey (who had built his own home in Neptune, New Jersey) and asked for advice regarding the electrical upgrade and how to do it. Yep, he did it. Everything was completed and it took 4 years.  Four years of scraping money together to buy the floor, paint, the conduit pipe for the wiring and more.

So, what is it that holds you back?

Are your family or friends telling you it can never be done?

Have you convinced yourself that you’ll never see that dream come true?

God gives each of us gifts to use to bless others. What is it that you’re good at? It’s time to explore!

Today’s the day to move that one foot forward toward the goal. Just one baby step at a time.

Take a moment to watch this video (click the link): Never Give Up !!

Lost and Found Dreams

Lost and Found Dreams

Follow your dream
Follow your dream

As you move toward the career or business of your dreams, you find out quickly that the pathway has some twist and turns you never expected.

Sometimes, there are very nice surprises, too!

Your journey experience may teach you, however, that where you began is not where you end up.  The purpose of your journey is not just the end game; it’s what you learn along the way about yourself.r

For instance, as you begin to promote yourself online by writing blog posts you discover that you adore writing.

What do you do with that information?

Do you look at writing as a career?

How strongly are you drawn to that profession?

All good questions to ask yourself.

Or, you have a specific career in mind.  You land your first job and discover you would prefer to work in different area altogether.

It’s important to step out into your journey.

Let it begin and then see where the road leads you.

Be open to change.

 

Tough Talk

Tough TalkTough Talk

As you begin a new journey, whether it be building a business, following a long time dream or you’re beginning a weight loss program, how you think and what you speak will determine what the outcome is in the long run.

What do you tell yourself? Do you speak as if your dreams will never amount to anything or do you tell yourself that you CAN do this?

Who do you listen to? Do you listen to advice from those who have refused to follow their own dreams? Or, do you follow and connect with those who have successfully achieved their end goal?

How do you get off this merry go round of negativity?

Can you go from thinking of yourself as a complete failure to believing that there are qualities within you that with hard work will lead you down the path to your God-given destiny?

Yes, you can!

It takes something very simple. A change of ATTITUDE.

How hard will you work?

Have you written out your goals?

Procrastination will absolutely kill the creative spirit, so it is time to move!

Today.

Do it now.Tough Talk

 

You are Fearless! Go!

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Trying is more than being good enough. It’s giving your absolutely best.

Yes, yes…you could wait until your so-called ducks are in a row but I have to tell you – sometimes you just have to jump!

What skills do you need in order to make your dream job or business a reality?

Make a list and then one by one work yourself closer to a master achiever.  It’s as simple as planning your work and working your plan. There’s a saying that goes, “Time waits for no one” and that’s true.  Think about where you want to be exactly 30 days from now. Be very realistic.

Write out your list of goals for the next 30 days.

Pick one goal and begin working toward it.

Simple!

Let go of the fear and fly!

Frenemy or BFF?

Who's Your True BFF?
Who’s Your True BFF?

Frenemy or Bff?

In most families there are many different personality types. There are givers, takers, uplifters and downshifters. LOL!

The message that came thru loud and clear during my junior high and high school years was that nothing much was expected of me. Aside from learning how to clean the house and wash dishes, I was challenged to achieve passing grades in school and that’s about it.  No honor roll needed, no plans for college.

Oh, and there was a definite pressure to be thin.  Thin equaled success.

I set out with the prescribed goals in mind and as a result, did not strive for excellence. Middle ground was enough.

As I entered my twenties, the desire for something more began to rise up within me. I began to question my own spirituality and the desires God had placed in my heart to write and to minister to others.

So after taking some of life’s detours and traveling down paths that were not at all beneficial to me (poor relationships, bad diets, no direction), I came to know Jesus as my Savior. The experience was a total compass reset.

So, where are you in your life’s journey right now?

Do you feel lost at sea?

Unloved.

Abandoned.

Unseen.

Stories to tell but no one to tell them to?

I’m here to tell you that there is One who adores you.  He gave His life for you, stands by your side and His name is Jesus. Give Him your heart and soul today.

He’s your true BFF.

Barbara Corcoran was Originally Rejected from Shark Tank

Barbara Corcoran was originally rejected from Shark Tank.

When Plans Unexpectedly Change
When Plans Unexpectedly Change

Seriously?  She’s a total dynamo!

But, it’s true.  She was offered the job and 4 days before she was to fly out to Hollywood, producer Mark Burnett changed his mind.

Barbara felt totally rejected for a bit and then something else kicked in.

She decided to fight back!

And she was given the position of one of the top sharks in the tank.

You see, no one is immune from rejection. Emotionally, we place all of eggs in one basket and when it doesn’t “go”, we’re devastated.  But what if what we’re determined to achieve is not really good for us? What if it’s not in God’s plan?

Then, yes, it’s time to let it go and wait expectantly.

Sometimes, though, we know as we know that we’re on the right path as Barbara Corcoran did and we have to give it our all.

Read Barbara’s full story here…

He is the Constant

 

He is the Constant.

constant, faithfulness, love, everlasting

 

He is faithful.

He stays put.

He never leaves you.

He wraps you up in His loving arms.

He stands by when everything around you is crashing down.

He adores you.

Yes you!

He is the Constant.

The Everlasting.

He rules and reigns.

There are no others before Him.

He gives you hope.

He never, ever gives up on you.

Nothing is impossible with Him.

He is your Constant.

 

Crumpled Bits of Paper

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She wrote heartbreak poetry; broken dreams were all she had.

She wondered allowed, "There has to be a way to know where we go when we come to the end of our life."

The next day she drove to the local bookstore at the local mall and just stared at the Bibles. She thought, "Where do I begin?"  "How do I find the truth?"

Five years later, after marriage and a move to the midwest, she read a copy of the "Our Daily Bread" devotional and finally understood what Jesus did for her on the cross. He paid the price for her sins, past, present and future.

Her desire to know God, to know whether He loved her or not could not be denied.

And the truth set her free.

That girl is me.

Takin’ the High Road

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“As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts." Isaiah 55:9

There are moments in life when we have to make choices concerning how we respond to others' negativity or criticism. It's very easy to answer the naysayers with a snappy or sarcastic comeback but honestly it places us on their level.

Instead, we're told to turn the other cheek and take the high road. God has a plan for your life and it's yours alone. Period.

People will have an opinion about everything you do, won't they? It's important that you develop the confidence and trust in the future your Almightly Father has set out for you.

You have been divinely appointed for a specific purpose on this earth and it's your responsibility to find out what it is and accomplish what He's set out for you to do.

Others may not like His plan for you.

What do you do?

You read His Word which operates not only as your life guide, but your career guide. Take a moment to read how thoroughly God knows you and adores you (Psalm 139)…

You have searched me, Lord,
    and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
    you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
    you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
    you, Lord, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before,
    and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
    too lofty for me to attain.

Where can I go from your Spirit?
    Where can I flee from your presence?
If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
    if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
    if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
    your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
    and the light become night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
    the night will shine like the day,
    for darkness is as light to you.

13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts,[a] God!
    How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
    they would outnumber the grains of sand—
    when I awake, I am still with you.

19 If only you, God, would slay the wicked!
    Away from me, you who are bloodthirsty!
20 They speak of you with evil intent;
    your adversaries misuse your name.
21 Do I not hate those who hate you, Lord,
    and abhor those who are in rebellion against you?
22 I have nothing but hatred for them;
    I count them my enemies.
23 Search me, God, and know my heart;
    test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in me,
    and lead me in the way everlasting.